In the midst of a gloomy English autumn and winter its not unusual to dream of escaping to a place with better weather. The change in my mood when I can see a blue sky, rather than a steely grey monotone is remarkable. For many years, that is all it was, an idle dream. We watched the TV programmes and discussed the places that people were looking at and the properties they viewed. Would we go for France or Italy or Spain or further afield? What type of place would we go for? An apartment near a golf course or with a sea view or a larger place somewhere in the countryside. These glimpses into the lives of people buying an apartment by the sea, or a French country chateau started to shift my perception. The people were from all walks of life, perhaps we too could make our dream a reality. If they could do it, then so could I.
Armed with a dream and not much else, we began to idly talk about the possibility of getting our own place in the sun. We talked about places we have been to on holiday, and if we would want to live there for longer periods of time. We start to look in estate agents windows whenever we travel, being either delighted or disappointed at the prices. Everywhere looks lovely in the sunshine. Sitting outside a café overlooking a harbour or a beautiful square feels like an attractive life, but is it sustainable beyond one or two weeks?
If we are really going to get serious about this we have to turn this conversation, pleasant though it is, into a real plan. Firstly we need to narrow down the list of possibilities, decide what we want our lives to look and feel like day to day, and build up that picture. Then at least we can match the place against the dream, and then maybe we can start to do something about it. Those TV programmes have taught me that if you are clear about what you want its easier to make a decision.
One day sitting in a pavement café in Malaga in March, having escaped a cold rainy London for a few days, the conversation starts again. Malaga is one of my favourite places to go to for a short break, its basically a city with a beach; small enough to walk around, big enough to have plenty to do, and you can sit outside without a coat in March. Could this be the place? But he says it’s a bit busy, he wants to be somewhere quieter. Its clear that we have to talk more about what we both want. This time we get out a notebook and start making lists.
It becomes clear that we want a lot of the same things, but there are also quite a few differences. I have lived in cities all my life, and so find it difficult to image not living in one, or at least a large town. He has also lived in cities all his life but wants an escape from that. We agree on a lot though, we want to escape the UK winter weather, have time to relax and enjoy simple pleasures, we want to have beautiful views to look at and have a sense of expansive space. We want it to be easy to travel to, attractive for visitors so that our friends and family will want to come and visit us, and we want to be there for extended periods of time, months rather than weeks. We do agree that the first priority is the weather in the winter, and the travel time. That narrows the geography down a bit, it’s probably going to be Southern Europe. Its time to get down to some serious research.
